Oh the waiting game! Our lives can often feel like one large, giant waiting room. We start life where there are so many things we just can’t wait to get started on: we can’t wait to grow up, get a drivers license, graduate high school, graduate university, settle down and meet someone special and get hitched. Then we can’t wait to have babies (those 9 months must take forever) then for our babies to be old enough to go to school.
The list really could go on and on. It feels like as soon as I exit one waiting room I am then entering another. I just got married not even a year ago and now I’m in the waiting room waiting for the right time for us to start having babies (the baby fever comes and goes but I know our timing isn’t now). Even though we have control over some things, it is a lot like I’m sitting in a hospital without an appointment and you have no clue when your name will be called.
The biggest season in my life that I felt like I was waiting the longest was when I was single. I had dated before but not for three years before my husband asked me out. I felt like dating took a lot of energy and time I didn’t have and I was wanting to wait for someone who was worth it. Well, those three years felt like ten! I had no idea when an amazing guy would enter my life. I had all these hopes and dreams of things I wanted to do once I was married such as buy a house, get a dog, have babies, and have a positive impact on people around us. Now that I’m married I’m still waiting on a lot of these ambitions but have gathered some thoughts that have made the waiting game a bit easier:
1) Stop Wishing My Life Away: I heard someone say a few years ago that she was so excited for her 3 children to be old enough to go to school. She then had the realization one day while reflecting that she was not only wishing away her life, but her children’s as well. Hearing this was a big, large, elephant lesson for me. I was so excited for the next season that I was letting all of these important moments fly by. I was not savouring the friendships that were so easy because of my extra time nor was I even relishing the life of freedom of a lot less responsibilities. I then decided I wanted to treasure every moment and take it in because it’s so special and not take it for granted no matter what season I’m in.
2) Prepare, Prepare, Prepare: Right now I am not a mommy nor are we expecting but I know I have to start preparing now. How?? I am working on becoming more patient, quick to listen slow to speak, and soaking up all the wisdom from my mommy friends. If I wait till I’m in labor to decide what type of parent I want to be, let’s just say it won’t go well. It’s super important to stay in the moment while glancing to the future to anticipate what is next. Whether it’s a promotion at work, going from a single to married, or maybe even just extra life responsibilities it is time to prepare! Read books, ask questions, and grow.
3) Don’t Rush It: one of my favourite verses/quotes of all time is “Everything is beautiful in its time.” Sometimes there is literally nothing else to do but wait. I will embarrassingly admit for the whole world to see that two years before my husband asked me out on a date I had the biggest crush on him and told him I liked him one day after a group of our friends went to see a movie. He was flattered but was not interested (OUCH!). Two years later, he walked me to my car after church and told me he wanted to get to know me better. 4 months later we were engaged (don’t worry, we were friends for four years)! We both look back on the post movie situation and laugh but I truly believe in my heart that if we started dating then it would have ended in a breakup. I needed a few more years to grow and become who I am. I really believe that he came into my life at the absolute perfect time.
This waiting game has happened for me in my personal life, professional life, and spiritual life but I know if I’m patient, things will be better than I could have hoped or imagined.