While I’m writing it is Saturday May 23rd, our wedding anniversary, and I’m sitting in a hotel room as my husband is on a food run. Our original plans were to stay at home for a quiet night but we decided that we needed to get out of the familiarity of our house just to connect emotionally. We are both home bodies but occasionally your home feels like a jail and you need a fresh place for a fresh perspective.
So with Red Velvet treats in hand – every 23rd we eat something that is red velvet as it’s our wedding cake flavour – we arrive to a hotel, go swimming then say in the restaurant to have a real, intentional conversation.
The topic of tonight… What is our vision for year two of our marriage? What did we do great on in year one? What things did we neglect last year? What needs are not being met? What can we do to make sure that our marriage doesn’t become a divorce statistic.
I will share you this… Find a vision whether for your relationship, career, or family but make it clear to yourself and write it down (statistically you will be way more successful if you write it down). I spent too much of my time pointlessly wandering instead of deciding on a destination. I am choosing not to settle or “go with the flow” but to pick the best goals for ourselves that will make year two more impacting then one.
I am not going to share with you our goals as they are very personal to us but I close in saying: make goals, make steps to those goals, and then start working the plan. You can’t make it to a destination unless you pick one first!