I am so excited that we just celebrated our first year of marriage. We have had some up and downs, we have had a miscarriage and I found out I suffer from painful fibromyalgia which the medication has caused me to gain 70 pounds. I honestly don’t know what I would do without my husband. During our premarital counselling we each chose our roles; since my health had deteriorated my husband has had to help with roles that I had chose.
But what if he wasn’t flexible? What if he wasn’t patient? What if he wasn’t okay and supportive? What if he started to resent me? What if he decided he wasn’t attracted to me any more?
I know some of these would be deal breaker for many couples. I know this would cause a lot of resentment. I know these would be a reason for many people to walk away.
Divorce statistics makes me sad. 57% of marriages fail. That means that statistically, I will get divorce. This means statistically there will be a reason we will fall apart. The #1 reason for divorce is money issues and #2 is sex. BUT I am learning sex and money isn’t the primary issue… The number one issue is selfishness. It is easy to become selfish with what we want to do with our money. It is easy to be selfish with our bodies and energy.
If you are divorced there is still so much beauty in life and I’m proud of you for getting through that. If your marriage is in crisis, help is available! See a marriage counsellor or pastor but don’t give up!
So what do I do? What do I do to safeguards my marriage? I have decided I am not going to be selfish (even though I feel like I fail at this daily). I have decided that I will give 100% of myself. I have decided that I will communicate with my husband regularly to see what he needs and what can I do better.
I have been so blessed that I married a man who adores me beyond belief. He truly does love me on the inside and I do my best to keep the outside beautiful for him. I don’t want to be a sloppy wife but a classy wife he can be proud of. It is my goal to be forever newlyweds.